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Written by JAN LARSON McLAUGHLIN Sentinel County Editor   
Tuesday, 17 July 2012 09:08
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Whitney Hughs and her daughter McKenna May. (Photo: Enoch Wu/Sentinel-Tribune)
After two years of cancer treatments, McKenna May had two dreams answered. The 4-year-old completed her last treatment for leukemia and she was granted a Make-A-Wish trip to Disney World.
But as of last week, her dream trip was dashed.
McKenna, of Haskins, will not be going to Disney with Make-A-Wish because her father doesn't believe the wish granting organization should spend money on children who are "cured."
And since Make-A-Wish requires both parents to sign off on wishes, McKenna lost that opportunity to visit Disney.
But McKenna's mom and grandma are now trying to get the little girl to Florida by a different route. They have placed collection jars at businesses throughout the county for donations to send McKenna to Disney. As of Monday, the family was still far from its $3,500 goal.
Her father, William May of Toledo, said using Make-A-Wish money for a child who is "free and clear" of illness is an improper use of donations made to the organization.
"I think it should go to kids who only have six months to live," he said.
But Susan McConnell, president and CEO of Make-A-Wish for Ohio, Kentucky and Indiana, said that McKenna clearly qualifies for a wish since she has gone through so much in her two-year struggle to beat leukemia.
"The doctors are the ones who determine if she is qualified," McConnell explained.
McConnell said it is unfortunate that the family yanked their request for a wish since the father wouldn't sign off.
"She's been through a lot," she said of McKenna. "What I really feel bad about is she is stuck in the middle."
Though Make-A-Wish requires signatures from both parents, there are a few exceptions, such as if a parent is unknown or cannot be found. In some cases, judges have intervened and granted authority.
Wood County Probate and Juvenile Judge Dave Woessner said his court would consider issuing an order for the parental signature, but McKenna's mom and grandma were worried that even that order wouldn't be enough.
So they pulled their request for a trip, and put out collection jars instead.
"We have jars all over Bowling Green," said her grandma, Lori Helppie.
"We're trying," said McKenna's mother, Whitney Hughes. "Obviously we're no where close to what we need."
To save money, the family plans to drive rather than fly to Disney.
"The important thing is to get her there," Helppie said. "She loves Mickey Mouse. She loves Cinderella."
"She's really excited," Hughes said. "It's all she's talked about for the last three months."
The mother and grandmother have no doubt that McKenna deserves the Make-A-Wish trip. She was diagnosed with leukemia in April 2010 and had her last treatment last month. During that time, she had 15 spinal taps to make sure the cancer hadn't spread, multiple chemotherapy treatments, skin burns and vomiting from the chemo, and steroid injections that compromised her immune system. She was hospitalized four times due to high fevers. She won't be ruled "cancer free" until five years after her last treatment.
"I'm just angry after all she went through," Hughes said.
McKenna's father went to very few treatments and doctor's appointments, and was just granted visitation privileges earlier this year, the grandmother said.
Helppie said she is "outraged" that McKenna's father wouldn't sign off for the Disney trip.
The father, however, blames McKenna's mother and grandmother for keeping him from seeing his daughter.
"I wasn't allowed to be involved," he said. "It ticked me off."
But May said his refusal to sign off on the trip is not related to his anger at McKenna's mother and grandmother.
"It has nothing to do with that," he said.
However, Helppie and Hughes question his motives.
"He has made it such an ugly fiasco. It's not about him - it's about McKenna," Helppie said. "But he's doing this to get back."
Hughes has tried to reassure McKenna that she will see Mickey and Cinderella somehow.
"I just told her we were still going to Disney," - sometime, Hughes said.
Anyone wanting to donate to McKenna's trip may send donations to 5/3 Bank, 275 South Main Street, Bowling Green, Ohio 43402   (419) 354-9531 to the benefit account for McKenna May.

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# 2012-07-17 10:07
This is outragous! That father is very selfish. If she qualifies under Make-A-Wish, what does it matter what he believes. It does very much sound like it is his way of getting back at the mother, but is only hurting the child!! Shame on the mother and grandmother for not letting the court do their job and force him to sign. Shame on Make-A-Wish for not going thru with the Wish for this child. If the custodial parent has given the ok, why does it matter what the other parent thinks, especially if at the time the Wish was granted he didn't even have visitation rights. Praying for this little girl and I hope she makes it to Disney! Maybe dad should cough up the cash for her to go since he ruined her chance!
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# 2012-07-18 15:23
I totally agree with you! what if he was the one with cancer! how would he feel? And how can a parent be so cold and heartless!?
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# 2012-07-19 10:49
I think what you are doing is so very selfish if your daughter was mine i would say yes because she could die without seeing walt disney world
You are so heartless so to unloving she wants to go ok please let her go let her have her come true please
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# 2012-07-19 11:13
Oh yes, Walt Disney is ooooooo important in the whole scheme of things. NOT! The father made his point and you have no right to make accusations against him. Look, first off, where do you get off judging others? Who are you to determine who's "selfish" and who isn't? He is the girls' FATHER - you're NOBODY to this girl. Stop interferring with parental rights.
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# 2012-07-19 13:32
He may be the childs Father, but he was only granted visitation earlier this YEAR? Why is that , I wonder?
And why would you deny your child, who has been deemed an appropriate candidate by a medical committee, the chance to go to Disney to celebrate he current healthy state? I hope this Mother is able to fund raise on her own and take her daughter to Disney. Sounds like Dad is unhappy HE isn't going to Disney.
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# 2012-07-19 13:33
listen, he obviously wasn't involved in this little girl's life. what if this was your child? what if someone who hasn't been there through the hurt and the pain had the final say as to whether or not your little girl got to go on the trip of a lifetime, a lifetime that may not last much longer. cancer comes back. i've seen it. so shame on you and on her father! she deserves to be a kid!
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# 2012-07-19 14:46
I disagree and will probably get flack but, I think the dad should be able to go too. McKenna is in the middle of this and I'm guessing she loves her daddy and would like for him to go too. Just keep the parents separated and let them spend time with her separately. And he should pay his own way.
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# 2012-07-19 14:25
Quoting Batson D. Belfrey:
Oh yes, Walt Disney is ooooooo important in the whole scheme of things. NOT! The father made his point and you have no right to make accusations against him. Look, first off, where do you get off judging others? Who are you to determine who's "selfish" and who isn't? He is the girls' FATHER - you're NOBODY to this girl. Stop interferring with parental rights.

THE FATHER HAS VISITATION- NOT CUSTODY. SO HE HAS MINIMAL RIGHTS TO MAKE DECISIONS AT ALL. WHY SHOULD THIS ONE COUNT? LET THE JUDGE OVER RIDE IT.
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# 2012-07-19 15:17
His true reason for his daughter not going is because his ex wife is looking for a home in Florida and will make visitation difficut. Dude, I hope you daughter actually wants to spend time with you after you took her happiness away. You selfish jerk.
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# 2012-07-20 08:27
This is just what the father "thinks" he knows. These trips are short and highly organized, and house hunting is not on the list of activities. So, the father is letting his paranoia about visitation affect his daughter in a negative way, and essentially provides a world of proof that he is self-centered and a bad father. If he has concerns about visitation, he has a forum in which to work them out... it is called COURT. If he thinks some lame argument about his daughter being "healthy" will keep anyone from seeing that he is penalizing her for his own selfish reasons, he is seriously wrong. I hope this boomerangs on him and the girl's mom uses this in court as an example of what a poor parent he is! I have no doubt a judge would agree and limit dad's involvement even more. Mom should go to court and have the judge sign off on this now.
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# 2012-07-24 08:27
Actually, the trips are a week long and the family stays at Give Kids the World. The family is free to come and go as they please. There is no organization as far as what you do. If you wanted to you never have to visit Disney and could house hunt all week long.
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# 2012-07-19 15:24
In another version of this story, the Father claims, and the mother DOES NOT DENY, that during part of the trip she plans on house hunting there. Thereby "making it harder for me (the father) to have his court order visitation rights". This is a good reason why they require BOTH parents to sign off so as Make-A-Wish does not get involved in family affairs/conflicts.
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# 2012-07-20 08:28
So what. The mother has the right to live where ever she chooses. Since he isn't supporting the child he gets zippo.
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# 2012-07-20 10:05
He seems controlling... maybe that's why she's getting the heck out of Dodge.
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# 2012-07-20 11:34
[quote name="jamie"][quote name="Batson D. Belfrey"]
Interferring? Hmmm... First of all, free speech is not interference. Second, in the "whole scheme" it's all the little things that add up in life.....hmmm, let's see; a little time out to have really good time at Disney World and be a kid vs. a cancer victim with dad?!
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# 2012-07-19 14:40
To this girl - yes Disney is actually "soooo" important. Do you realize that thinking about Disney and Mickey and something happy and fun might have been the only thing that got her through treatments and needles and pain? Do you think illness has no mental componant? This so called father made his point alright; at the expense of a little girl who wanted something fun out of what's been, so far, a life full of illness and pain. There is NOTHING wrong with her simple wish and everything wrong with her selfish father.
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# 2012-07-19 15:05
Says the person using a fake name....
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# 2012-08-15 19:29
Being a cancer survivor I can understand having the hope of doing something fun. I went to Bermunda this year and had a ball. It was much better than the chemo and all the times in the hospital and Iam an adult. I hope the parents can put there problems behind and this little girl gets a chance to go to Disney.
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# 2012-07-19 15:43
This is the comment section, so anyone can say anything right or wrong. So here ya go.

so he stopped her because the mother was going house hunting and move there...guess what? Without the court she's not moving anywhere...so throw out the concern and put in the "i am the parent" game. 'I have rights"..blah, blah blah. No one is being fooled here. Wish they said if the "caring, adoring, protective father pays his child support, visits when (and whenever) he can. I wonder if he pays more than the court mandates and fights for more visitation...then lets re-evaluate.
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# 2012-07-19 15:55
You are so right we are nobodies...but its sad that all these nobodies give more of a dam about this child than that of the DONOR. who in their right mine that loves a child so would tell that child that they don't deserve a trip because he "assumes" she is cancer free. If you didn't read correctly it takes 5 years to consider her cancer free. SHE DESERVES THIS. more than that man (in lose terms) deserves his daughter. What a piece of work really. And I'll place my opinion where ever I want this is a free country. so there : P...
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# 2012-07-19 15:56
Batson, way to miss the point of this entire process.Commenting on a very sad story is NOT interferring or judging, its commenting.But that lack of understanding is also reflected by the callous disregard of the little girl's hopes and dreams. Who are you to say going to Disney is not important to a little girl's dream of meeting Cinderella? Whatever this family's issues are, preventing this trip is simply adding adult misery and dysfunction to the pain and trauma this small child has already endured. Shame on all the adults who could not figure out a way to be grown-ups for her.
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# 2012-07-19 17:31
His point? That he is a cruel & possibly sadistic man & worthless father? YES.

This girl has suffered more pain in her 4 years than he has suffered his entire life.
TROLL MUCH?

I AM SOMEBODY to this girl-somebody who CARES.
The FATHER is a NOBODY; he sounds like a nobody, a real LOSER & so do you.
He shouldn't have any parental rights left, they should be terminated, he's so smarmy!

I'll tell you who we are to 'make judgments' human beings! I have every right to judge him, you, the president or GOD HIMSELF if I so choose. Who am I to determine WHO is selfish? Someone with an IQ greater than a peanut!

This is the most glaring example of petty vindictive cruelty on the lowest, most vile, sadistic & CHURLISH level that I've ever had the misfortune to HEAR OF.
YOU are # 2 !
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# 2012-07-20 05:01
Batson, Sure we can make an assessment based on what he has said and done. Simply put though its not about the father, its about the girl. I have four daughters and would (and try to) do all I can to make their lives magical. The father is worse than selfish.
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# 2012-07-20 09:28
This "daddy" is a class act. I get off judging others when they act like jerks.
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# 2012-07-20 10:01
No, they're absolutely right. The guy doesn't even have visitation rights.... what does that tell you? I had a friend who just passed away and Disney was her way to escape the reality of pain and suffering. Even though she was cured, it only lasted a year. Now think about it, it was the one place she really really wanted to go, and if she hadn't gone when she could have, the unexpected could occur and she would have never gone. I do believe the father in this case is selfish and for him to decide who donations go to is ridiculous. It's not like they were giving it to a perfectly healthy child who had not suffered anything.
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# 2012-07-20 11:05
Mr. Bats ..... you certainly do have bats in YOUR belfrey!! What an obnoxious comment for a grown person to make ... you related to the father??? Not a father ... no father would do that to his daughter even if he never tried to see her ... sounds like this bozo was mad because he didn't get to go. Both of you need to grow up. By the way, you are no body either and you seem to be doing a lot of judging of others yourself.
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# 2012-07-20 16:39
You must be the stepmother
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# 2012-07-20 18:58
Batson D. Belfrey

You couldn't have picked a better screen name. It discribes your real identity, perfectly.
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# 2012-07-22 03:17
Not all parents are deserving of parental righs. Sometimes, they must be interfered with for the benefit of the child. The child should come first, not the parent. And in this case, the parent doesn't seem concerend with the child; so what rights should he have?
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# 2012-07-26 16:30
This is something a judge could rule on and the child could go to Disney. I'm sure some attorney could do this for her pro bono. It sounds like he wasn't much of a father since he just recently got some visitation. He wouldn't have a leg to stand on in court.
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# 2012-07-20 10:17
He's so cold & heartless because he's not really a "parent", just the sperm donor. Really, if he cared so much, he could have worked harder to be involved with her and her mother years ago. Seems like he is a spiteful jerk, and still carries a lot of anger towards the mother. Jerk.
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# 2012-07-19 07:47
Quoting peoplearecrazy:
This is outragous! That father is very selfish. If she qualifies under Make-A-Wish, what does it matter what he believes. It does very much sound like it is his way of getting back at the mother, but is only hurting the child!! Shame on the mother and grandmother for not letting the court do their job and force him to sign. Shame on Make-A-Wish for not going thru with the Wish for this child. If the custodial parent has given the ok, why does it matter what the other parent thinks, especially if at the time the Wish was granted he didn't even have visitation rights. Praying for this little girl and I hope she makes it to Disney! Maybe dad should cough up the cash for her to go since he ruined her chance!


This man is no father.
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# 2012-07-19 13:30
Actually, she does qualify. I think her dad may be in denial because she's not "cured", she's in remission. Cancer could rear its ugly, destructive head again. So I think she should be able to go via the Make-A-Wish people.
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# 2012-07-19 14:03
Quite your complaining and send a check, I did.
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# 2012-07-20 08:40
Quoting Fred_Flintsone:
Quite your complaining and send a check, I did.


WELL SAID!!! Sounds like anything will help. We are not a rich family but we ARE going to send something. All I have to say to her father is shame on you, we are here to protect our children not use them as tools in our petty arguments. Shame!
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# 2012-07-20 11:07
Amen! If everyone here sent a check she could be dancing with Mickey in a minute!

I had a friend who's father was never there for her and at her wedding she rented an official Mickey costume and did the father/bride dance with the best man wearing it because, as she said, "Mickey Mouse was there for me when I needed a daddy."
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# 2012-07-19 14:54
There must be more to this story. And there usually is. It sounds like the father fought for visitation and now has finally won his chance to know his daughter.It DOES matter that both biological parents have say so in a child's life. Isn't Make a Wish for children who are dying? Maybe this Father wants his daughter to fight to live verse to think that she has only this "Dying Wish" to go to Disney. Maybe he is giving her the gift of hope and life. Please try to look at is differently. This man may be a better Dad then he is given credit for. In closing, I bet there is more to this then meets the eye. If my ex felt that our child should give up her spot I would re-think my motives and Thank God my child was better. Additionally I would be having a fund raiser for a local family whos child may not be as well as "our" child.
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# 2012-07-19 16:11
Gee Shelly Really! She's 4. What could be anyone's motive to deny this. My grand daughter was 3 when she was diagnosed with cancer and she too got a trip to Disney.
Whoever said that's what she looked forward to is correct and the caregiver as well. It was an awful two yrs filled with fear, sadness, anxiety, it's an emotional roller coaster that you just can't fathom until you go through it. Find a way for the sake of the child to work this out. If the daughter is close to the father he should be there too. This is not about the parents or the grandmother. Let's not forget that fact.
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# 2012-07-20 08:25
Make-A-Wish is for children with life-threatening illnesses. Not for "children who are dying."
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# 2012-07-20 12:46
Shelly, i agree with you. The Dad seems to have morals and a sence of responsibility. Make-a-wish is for dieing children. In this entitlement society, everyone wants everything for nothing. He didn't say that she couldn't go, he just didn't want charity money (designed to grant a terminally ill kid's dieing wish) to be used. No wonder this country is in the sad financial shape that it is in. If the child was dieing, and he denied it, then there SHOULD be outrage, but this IS NOT the case.
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# 2012-07-20 19:09
eye duh... Make a wish is not exclusive to children who are dying. Do some research for petes sake, you're giving the impression of a fool.
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# 2012-07-21 17:27
agreed!!
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# 2012-07-19 16:39
^^ Agree.
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# 2012-07-19 10:21
no doubt this little girl has been through a lot, but the "make a wish foundation", to my understanding is for children that are not long for this world, it's sad but true. Asking for donations is the right thing to do. It will happen if it's meant to be. The Mother should have never married this type of man.She's just as much at fault. Knowing this little girl has been throught so much is enough for me to donate.People are suppose to help each other so everyone that wayed in with a comment put your money where your mouth is, donate and make it happen for this little girl.
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# 2012-07-19 11:04
Make a wish grants wishes for all types of different diseases, not just cancer. they are not just for terminal children as you believe. This child is also far from being called cancer free. Her life will not be normal for years to come as she will have constant ck-ups and blood draws.
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# 2012-07-19 11:10
Dear Rusnrobsmom,
You are completely wrong about eligibility for Make A Wish. Please do your homework before you give your opinion. Eligibility qualifications come from the child's doctor and are based on the treatments the child receives; namely any child that endures 6 months or more of chemotherapy is eligible and the doctor sends his recommendation to the foundation. Leukemia is a terrible disease and this child has just started to fight. She is not "free and clear" of anything, she is in remission. She will be out of the woods at the 5 year mark and that's a long ways a way. My child was granted his Wish when his 2 years of chemo were finished and he was monitored every 3 months after that, low and behold, 2 weeks before the 5 year mark, it became active again. Leukemia doesn't give up.
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# 2012-07-19 11:23
Your "understanding" of the Make-A-Wish Foundation's rules are incorrect. The rules say ANY life-threatening illness qualifies the child. It is not simply for children who are diagnosed as terminally ill.
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# 2012-07-20 11:16
I had a cousin who battled leukemia for 5 years. She was granted a wish when she was "cancer free". My cousin lost her battle with this ugly disease when it came back 6 months later. The fact that she was well enough to enjoy her trip and know that she got to see her wish come true was truly a blessing. I pray for little McKenna that she may get to see her dream and not deal with this ugly disease ever again.
The best we can do is send a donation and hope she gets there soon. :-)
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# 2012-07-19 11:25
The courts were the ones who awarded the father visitation rights. Obviously, the mother saw what kind of person this man was and did what she could to get him away from the child. The mother is NOT at fault.
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# 2012-07-19 11:33
To rusnrobsmom - the Make-A-Wish foundation "grants the wishes of children with life-threatening medical conditions" - it is not limited to those who are at the end of life. As the parent of a child who was diagnosed with cancer at 3 - I can tell you all first hand that our daughter's granted wish to go to Disney was the most memorable event in our lives. While I respect the right for eveyone to have their own opinion - I can tell you if you ever experienced childhood cancer first hand you would feel differently about this story. We have seen our child in so much pain and become so violently ill that it's almost impossible to breathe. So at the end of this journey we allowed the generostiy of Make-A-Wish to remind us how to live, laugh, smile and celebrate our little girls victory. This trip healed our souls and family!
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# 2012-07-20 13:16
Well said mybluize..And unless you live through the whole process, you have no clue the extent of the pain and suffering these little people go through, almost on a daily basis. Their strength and endurance is unbelievable. They touch so many lives and teach us that there are more important things in this life. So, why not give back to them and show them they are appreciated. This little girls dad is missing out and may regret it someday. How nice would it be for the MOM and DAD to both take their little girl to Disney...Now that would really put a smile on her face.
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# 2012-07-19 11:51
I have donated to Make-a-Wish for years. It is not hospice. This "father" is a vindictive SOB! The organization decides eligibility and the little girl clearly meets their requirements. She has gone through hell and has a long time before being certified cancer-free.
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# 2012-07-19 12:11
Actually Make a Wish is for children with "life threatening" illnesses. It is a great organization and the children whose wishes are granted have been to hell and back. A good friend's son was diagnosed with kidney cancer as an infant, after one kidney was completely removed and years of chemo and other treatments he is remission. He received his "Make a Wish" a trip to Disney World he stayed in a hotel that was specifically designed for sick children.
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# 2012-07-19 12:12
@rusnrobsmom, to be honest no one on this forum is in a place to decide or judge whether this little girl should be eligible for a make-a-wish foundation trip for all that she has endured, that is for the foundation to decide. If I read this article right, the organization reviewed her case and granted her the trip so anyone and everyone in her life who loves and cares for her should support it. The organization must have strict guidelines over who is granted a wish and how they go about granting it so the father, and anyone else who questions that is only getting in the way of allowing this little girl a joyous trip after all that she has endured.
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# 2012-07-19 12:53
This little girl is not cured yet. Our daughter fought Leukemia for 19 months, had a stem cell transplant and was considered 'cured'.....Our daughter died in 2009 because it came back. This father needs to be hung and I hope what happened to us doesn't happen to them. Get that child to Disney!
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# 2012-07-19 12:53
Your understanding is incorrect. Make a wish is for any child under the age of 18 that has a life-threatening illness. Life threatening does not always mean terminal. There is a difference. Visit www.wish.org to learn more. They even have a "where are they now" section on their site so you can see how many of the children are doing years later.
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# 2012-07-19 12:58
Quoting rusnrobsmom:
...the "make a wish foundation", to my understanding is for children that are not long for this world, it's sad but true...


Wrong! She very much qualifies for a wish! Make-a-Wish is for children with life threatening illnesses. Leukemia is definitely life threatening. I have a child that had cancer. The treatments themselves can kill and even if you survive you are at an elevated risk for other cancers and diseases from the treatment. Make-a-wish gives these children something to live for. I know in my case that not only did my child benefit, but the whole family's spirits were lifted and encouraged.

If Dad doesn't want Make-a-wish used, he should "man up" and pay for it himself (whether or not he goes with her).
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# 2012-07-19 13:04
Let me make your understanding correct. Make A Wish is for children who are battling terminally ill diseases, which means you don't have to be dieing to get a trip, just have a disease in to which you could die from it. And if you don't believe me ask them yourself. As a mother to a child w/ leukemia and 2 relapses, I know what I'm talking about, I'm not trying to be mean, I just wanted to clarify that for you.
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# 2012-07-20 08:30
Not "terminally ill" rather life-threatening. Those are two very different definitions.
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# 2012-07-19 13:04
Notice, he is from Toledo, she is from Haskins... They may have never been married. If the two parents aren't together, the custodial parent should make the decision. Leave the other one, mother or father, out of it.
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# 2012-07-19 13:19
I am her mother and her father and I were never married or lived together.
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# 2012-07-19 13:20
Actually, it isn't just for kids who are going to die. It includes all children whose childhoods have been screwed up by illness.
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# 2012-07-19 16:55
A child I know had cancer 5 years ago. she was given a make a wish gift. She could not use it until she went into remission. The cancer has since returned twice. You never know what can happen. I believe the organization tries to do something for every kid with cancer or serious disease. I don't think she would be taking anything away from someone else. She fought cancer, she deserves the trip.
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# 2012-07-21 13:56
Her "daddy" only came into her life this year, while she was undergoing chemo. Her mother and he were never married, never lived together, and quit seeing each other when the mother was one month pregnant. I'm retired from Dept of Social Health & Welfare and have seen countless cases where a woman finds out she's pregnant, raises the child on her own until financials cause her to seek help. At that time the state seeks child support &/or medical ins from the absent father. Usually the judge, depending on the child & father's record, will grant visitation when he assesses child/medical support. This man's only power was to refuse to sign off on MAW's form, thus depriving McKenna of being a Disney Special Make a Wish Child, avoiding lines, etc. Her mother is taking her now but as a reg visitor who must wait in lines.
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# 2012-07-19 10:47
You're sounding a little crazy here...there is only one person who should be ashamed, and that is the father. If he feels that way, then he put his money where his mouth is and pay the bill himself.
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# 2012-07-19 11:58
Here is the direct link where you can donate:

http://www.gofundme.com/Make-McKennas-wish-happe
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# 2012-07-19 14:19
I totally agree with you. This dad wanted to get even with mom. He certainly does not have the child's best interest at heart. He should be required to foot the bill. He is such a jerk. Having gone through chemo myself, I cannot imagine a poor 4 year old having to endure this. She deserves the trip. I think a parent that is not a part of the child's life should not have decision-making power. I wonder if he has paid his child support for 4 years.
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# 2012-07-20 07:19
It is Easy to make comments based on Emotions and while initially the thought is wow, why would he do this. Take a Moment and Analyze the article rather than making a Rash emotional comment...1st, That the Father was Barely there is Hearsay, Not Fact...Second, The Mother is Looking to Move the child away making visitation difficult...I have been through this and as a Father, It Hurts! Also, He did say he would take her to Disney, Some day...If youve beenm THINK!! Children appreciate it More when they are just a little older than she is now...That said, It seems nobody attempted a compromise...If they want her to go so badly why not let the Father take her or the Grandparents...There is far more going on here than we know from this article.. I feel for her but the Father must think Long term and he does have Rights!!
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# 2012-07-20 08:44
Wrong Tile Guy on all fronts.The Father couldn't even make it to McKenna's 3rd or 4th birthday party. His choice he(they- his other family) was invited. He has said he doesn't want to go to Disney so is he going to send her by herself? He was invited to go with them on the Make a Wish trip and chose not to becuse they wouldn't pay for his entire family to go also. Not all Dads are as selfless as some. The compromise was even inviting the father who was never there for McKenna (by his choice) to go along with them on the Disney trip even though he chose not to be there for her during her illness, holidays, birthdays.
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# 2012-07-20 08:40
I think this is ridiculous that this little girl shouldn't get her trip. I have just offered to pay for a trip for her and her mom. We can leave dad at home since he is the scrooge he is. Let the two enjoy their day as a little princess she seems to be!
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# 2012-07-20 14:45
The father is right. Sorry. There are kids that may not be more deserving but are in far worse shape and WILL die. Make a Wish is for DYING children.
This is the problem with the whole damn system.I'd like to shake that mans hand for being the voice of reason; He knows that there are others in much greater need. He does not take from them. Taking from those that are truly in need is WRONG. Everyone that thinks he is wrong has no moral compass. If it were my daughter on the list and was ACTUALLY dying. I'd be pissed off that this kid went over my child who god only knows when I would have to BURY! I have tons of respect for this father. Give me 1 reason WHY anyone should move heaven and earth for THIS kid versus one who it is certain may not see another day?
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# 2012-07-21 14:11
Childhood lymphatic leukemia commonly goes into and out of remission. While in remission is the only time a child is pain-free and feels well enough to use and enjoy their wish. Make a Wish is for children with life threatening illness and the trips are for the children who've recovered, or with cancer, who are in remission. The Starlight Foundation is for terminally ill/dying children and those seldom involve trips, but usually meeting someone or seeing a game etc. Look up the two. This man's only power was refusing to sign MAW's form, forcing the mother to take McKenna as a reg visitor (standing in lines) instead of as a Special Disney Make a Wish Child who need not stand in lines, important because children just into remission are not normal healthy children but are still weak and tire easily. Hope his Karma bites him soon.
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# 2012-07-24 20:29
"Truly in need"? Ever watch your two year old go through chemotherapy?

There is no cure for cancer. Leukemia is a blood cancer. You have no idea what you are talking about and only expose yourself as an idiot for even commenting...
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# 2012-07-20 23:30
MR."Batson D. Belfrey"
As a father of two daughters, this man is not putting his daughter first, ahead of personal feelings towards his ex...
If he had gone to the treatments and seen the needles and pain his little girl went through, he should of had been choked up and holding back tears, due to the pain his little girl was going through during the treatment.
As a father he should have sat in that room and held his scared little girl, and seen what he used to comfort her.I will guarantee you, if getting to see the Disney characters comforted her, he never would have made the ignorant statements he has made to take this away from her.
As, a father; this father is no father-
He needs to go to a Children's Hospital or Ronald McDonald House and Volunteer. Maybe then he will have compassion for his daughter.
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# 2012-07-17 11:05
Dear Mr. May,

Some things are NOT about you. Grow up. You are not man enough to be this little girl's father.
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# 2012-07-17 14:53
Amen to that!
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# 2012-07-18 14:56
Exactly - classic FINO (Father In Name Only).
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# 2012-07-18 19:16
I second this! I watched my 69 year-old Mother go through the agony of treatment for Leukemia...perhaps Mr. May would like to experience having "a cork screw inserted into his spine" repeatedly (to get a bone marrow sample) to better understand what his child has been through these past two years? If my Mother were here today, I know what she would say..."Come On Disney World, give back a tiny portion of your vast profits and make this little girl's wish come true!" Then her family won't have to waste precious time putting jars out to collect the money. The awful truth is, no one knows how long she will be "healthy". (If Disney really needs to turn a profit here they can always make one of those cute "What will you do next?" commercials featuring McKenna, I'm sure it will pay off!
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# 2012-07-19 08:27
This has nothing to do with Disney or Make-A-Wish and everything to do with a selfish and petty "man."

Raising funds to pay for a family vacation is nothing close to the wish experience a child with a life threatening condition will enjoy.

What a shame.
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# 2012-07-19 11:47
I agree that this has nothing to do with Disney or Make-A-Wish. Disney donates millions of dollars every year to a plethora of charities. In addition, Disney employees donate thousands of man hours each year working at charity events. I know...because I'm one of them.

And sick and dying children come to Disney theme parks every year because of the generosity of the company. Who do you think funds these numerous Make-A-Wish trips.

The father is the one who should be ashamed of himself. He obviously wants to lash out at someone and he is choosing his daughter to be that one.
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# 2012-07-17 11:05
Why must children always be the victim when it comes to adult petty issues? First, she is not cured and second, why should someone who does not have the best interest in the child be allowed to be part of decision making? Just because someone is a donor does not always make them a daddy! You have to earn that title.
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# 2012-07-17 11:25
Clearly this guy is doing this to get back at Mom and Grandma. Sounds like there is much, much more to the story.... While I'm sure Mom and Granny aren't completely innocent in all of this, I can't believe Dad would do this to his own daughter. This brings to mind the Brian Steinmiller incident. What loving parents....
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# 2012-07-17 14:03
I still can't believe Bill has the nerve to say he was not allowed to be involved. I met McKenna because he and his family refused to help when McKenna was admitted on one of her routine checks that turned out not to be so routine and Whit was on complete bedrest and couldn't get to you guys and Lori couldn't leave the hospital and McKenna was asking for a special juice and snacks to eat (which getting her to eat at that time was a miracle in itself) and they couldn't be bothered to help.
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# 2012-07-17 14:08
TO keep McKenna from her wish when at times I think that was what kept her getting that one more poke and one more blood draw and one more spinal. What first class self centered, egotistical, unfeeling, person it takes to be that hurtful and spitful because he can't get a free ride for himself and his family to go on a trip they have no right to even think about. It wasn't any of them that went through the heartache and misery that McKenna did and Lori, Whit and Bruce went thru for those 2+ years.
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# 2012-07-17 14:09
Lori lost a good career so that she could be there to help and support, or Whit to have to give up school so she could be there 100% to get McKenna better tto have to put school on hold for so long where Whit was trying to eventually get a degree and make a better life fo her family. And to say McKenna is cured! Has 5 years gone by already! Once again Bill has no idea and chooses to remain ignorant. How sad....And as for Bill being ticked he wasn't allowed to be involve the only person he needs to be ticked at is the one that looks back at him from the mirror everyday.....
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# 2012-07-17 14:16
It has EVERYTHING to do with that..This little girl has gone thru so much and is NOT "cured" nor is she out of danger in any way. Her grandmother & mother were the primary caretakers from the start before the father ever acknowledge Mckenna was even his daughter. Had he been included in the trip as he wanted to be, McKenna would have been on her way to Disneyland.. it's so sad he would prevent his own child the adventure of a lifetime..
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# 2012-07-17 14:17
I am McKenna's mother and I just wanted to further explain that going to court to get him to sign. In our case will not help as our make a wish cordinater told me that she will not honer his signature if he is forced to sign the papers and that she will only accept the signed papers by him, if it was his free will to sign. If he is forced to sign the papers they will not honor it and McKenna still will not be able to go.

Even if Make a wish did honor the papers we could be tied up in court for months. It is unfortunately not that simple, although I wish it was.
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# 2012-07-18 14:58
Is there an address where donations can be sent for those of us who think she does deserve the trip but do not live in the community.
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# 2012-07-19 00:24
Anyone wishing to donate out of state can go to gofundme.com and search for Disney wish. Her story is there and you can donate directly to the site.
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# 2012-07-19 12:19
Think of starting a chipin site to collect funds, this is an easy way for those of us out of state and it is automatic.
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# 2012-07-19 13:13
Quoting Whitney:
Anyone wishing to donate out of state can go to gofundme.com and search for Disney wish. Her story is there and you can donate directly to the site.

Thank you for the site information. Rather than voice our opinions of little McKenna's father and possibly add to her grief (she may be reading our comments), donating to help her get to Disneyland would be a positive action. Or setting up a fund for her future even. Let's focus on the positive and help her go forward with a good attitude and with the knowledge that good does exist in this world and that she is part of it.
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# 2012-07-18 15:18
Does this man have a facebook or a way to reach him to tell him how stupid he is. His daughter deserves this trip and he is just doing it out of spite. He should be told by as many people as possible how bad of a decision he is making.
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# 2012-07-19 10:23
Facebook isn't a place to rant on people.
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# 2012-07-18 15:23
To McKenna and her Family: You hang in there honey, I know that you will be going to Disney World. It may take a bit more time, but you will get that wish. By the way, how can I help, Please let me know!
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# 2012-07-18 15:36
God Bless your daughter. I will be sending a donation to you. although not much. please keep in touch to let me know if she is able to go.
mygirl_isabella @yahoo.com i would want the same for my daughter if she was in your place.
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# 2012-07-18 17:56
I have a 14 year old daughter with Down syndrome who was diagnosed with leukemia 7/30/10. My heart goes out to you, as I know how brutal the treatment is with spinal taps, spinal chemo, painful PEG shots in the thighs, shots given at home, rounds of steroids, chemo that can cause heart issues, kidney issues, being isolated at home, inpatient stays for fevers, etc. etc. I still can't watch when they jab that huge needle through her chest to access her port. McKenna's father doesn't "get it". It breaks my heart to think she is being used as a pawn in his game. Best wishes and good luck to you. I hope McKenna gets her dream trip. And may your little sweetheart remain cancer free!
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# 2012-07-18 20:40
Hey ma'am I was just on indiegogo.com and there are people collecting money on there for you. If you went on and made an official one it might help. Hug your little one tight I have a nephew that got a Make a wish and it was the greatest experience he had in a long time.
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# 2012-07-19 11:05
I know people will hate what I have to say, but oh wells. Yes the way the father seems like he is being selfish. But the bigger picture is that the child is healthy and just came out of a two-year long hell. Why all this stress over a Disney trip? If you think she is not feeling the anger, resentment, and stress of this situation, you are crazy. Kids pick up on this stuff. I am so sick of parents using their kids as chess pieces. Even if you are not doing it yourself, Whitney, you are allowing it by putting your personal situation all over the internet and newspapers. There are hundreds of thousands of sick kids, who never will get the chance to do anything with their life. Now with all this you will probably get way more money than you needed. Hope at least you will donate what is left to make-a-wish.
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# 2012-07-23 10:13
Eman I disagree with you. The little girl deserves to go to Disney even if she was cured. I think McKenna's father is being a real jerk. He is putting his personal feelings a head of his child's. It doesn't matter if the child is cured of the disease or not. The Make-A-Wish foundation is their to help families. They have in the past have helped children with physical and mental disabilities. McKenna's no different from those cases.On another note I want to praise McKenna's mother Whitney for taking such good care of her. I know these treatments were extremely painful for a child do go through. McKenna deserves the trip to Disney and shame on her father for refusing to sign the documents to make it happen.
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# 2012-07-20 08:35
You really should not have pulled your request for a Make-A-Wish trip. Your claims that they won't grant the wish are exaggerated.

Not sure what your motivation is but you will obviously bring in MUCH more money by getting this story out to the national media.

What are you going to do with the extra money? I would hope you would donate it to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.
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# 2012-07-23 02:11
Hey whitney, i was just wondering if you could send me a address i could send a box of things to. it broke my heart to read this article. Just wanting to send things like gift cards, a t-shirt, maybe even a Cinderella princess dress if you send me a size as well as an address. I would greatly appreciate it! my email is disneyfreak10@yahoo.com
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# 2012-07-17 14:24
There is a special place in hell for petty, selfish, mean people, especially those who manifest their will on children. Shame.
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# 2012-07-19 11:15
So you're suggesting there's a special place in Hell for Father's who make decisions about their children?
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# 2012-07-20 12:07
Apparently so Batson, if this were the other way around, then that would be fair.Todays laws are soooo messed up it aint even funny
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# 2012-07-17 14:52
This man is an absolute sorry excuse of a human being! Thank goodness this beautiful little girl has a mother and grandmother who love and care for her very much. Isn't that always the way? Women are the strong, nurturing ones and this deadbeat man just sits back and makes excuses. God Bless this little girl and if I run across one of the jars in my travels you can bet I'll contribute greatly! I hope she gets the opportunity to enjoy her trip!
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# 2012-07-17 17:11
I haven't read a more ridiculous story in a long time. This little girl went through complete agony, something no child should ever have to experience. This trip will not prevent a child that has "6 months to live" to have a granted wish. She qualifies, and Im sure she deserves to experience something really great after all this. As a parent, I guess you have the right to do whatever you want, but it would make a lot more sense if it appeared to be in the best interest of your child, this looks like the exact opposite. With all that said, it looks like yet again another child is the gamepiece for a parent to make a point. Pretty sad. I hope she gets her wish somehow.
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# 2012-07-17 17:28
Since Susan McConnell is president of Make-A-Wish for Ohio, etc. who is this coordinator that will not accept a legally enforced signature? Surely there is some leeway here so that the family isn't forced to go begging to get the money to take McKenna to Disney? If she qualifies, she qualifies. Why do they require the signature of a divorced parent who is not even in the picture, nor does he apparently want to be unless he gets to take his second family to Disney at their expense too? Let's everyone apply a little common sense here, get out of the bureaucracy pit, and take care of this little girl who has been through so much and may, God forbid, go through much more before she is "cured."
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# 2012-07-19 00:28
I am not sure but that is what I was told. We are not divorced, we were never married and never lived together. We broke up when I was only a month pregnant. My daughter has lived with me from birth and I have full custody of her. Her father was granted visatation on January, 27th.
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# 2012-07-20 08:36
This claim is false and leads me to wonder what the underlying motivation is to pull the wish request.

I'm afraid it is about $$$$.
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# 2012-07-20 11:05
Quoting Robert:
This claim is false and leads me to wonder what the underlying motivation is to pull the wish request.

I'm afraid it is about $$$$.


Um the people from Make A Wish Foundation are QUOTED in the article confirming that the claim is true. Can't you read?
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# 2012-07-22 16:35
There are no quotes attributed to Make-A-Wish in the entire article.

Apparently reading comprehension is not important to you.
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# 2012-07-20 11:57
I believe they require a signature to release liability of being sued by the other parent if something was to happen to the child while on the trip. Make-A-Wish is an organization that is supported on donations and as any business most want to be free of liability..including Disney..when you purchase a ticket to any theme park if you read the fine print on the back...there is a liability clause on there stating when you purchase this ticket you release them of all liability. I cant say I blame MAW! I have a step son that experienced a Wish! He is not on his death bed..he had a kidney transplant and is *fingers crossed* almost 5 yrs rejection free...but the life of kidneys that are transplanted are 5-7 years..so he will possibly have to have another transplant or two within his lifetime-His trip gave him a get a way from the hospital ect
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# 2012-07-17 17:57
The fact that he said it's not about being denied visitation means it IS about being denied visitation. It was the first thought in his mind, his initial reaction. That's his true feeling. He is being completely selfish, vindictive, and cruel. He shouldn't be surprised if his daughter hates him when she grows up.

Besides—accordi ng to the doctors, she isn't "cured". it says right there in the article, "She won't be ruled "cancer free" until five years after her last treatment." So for the next five years, she's still eligible, even according to Daddy's rules.

Oh, well, karma will take care of that.
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# 2012-07-17 22:17
This guy is a selfish punk
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# 2012-07-18 07:26
DITTO!!!!!
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# 2012-07-17 22:54
What a vindictive selfish #$%^.

Makes me nauseous thinking a parent would be that way to their innocent child who went through so much..

Going by this selfishness I can see why they didnt want you involved..
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# 2012-07-18 04:46
EVERYBODY is missing the nail on the head!
Both parents should grow up and learn to solve their issues without airing them on the front page of a public newspaper!
AMEN!
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# 2012-07-18 07:18
Actually it IS important that something like this is in the news and high traffic websites. It calls attention to this horrible situation and hopefully will inspire Disney or another foundation to send her themselves. That guy does not deserve parental rights in any capacity! Airing dirty laundry or not, whatever gets that girl to Disney is what is important. MORE mothers should speak out about emotionally abusive dead beat dads.
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# 2012-07-18 07:51
Sorry Jan BUT it is YOU who is missing the nail head or the point. The Mum is fine & been with child every step of the way in her fight for life. It is the jerk of a so called father that has never been with her until just a few short mths ago.. He is a self centred selfish man who does nothing caring for the child but likes to call shots. This deserved to be put out in the public arena. So inless ya know the facts, read the story more carefully
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# 2012-07-18 09:57
This isn't about the parents airing their issues on the front page, it's about a mother trying to get her daughter's wish granted. If your child had a wish taken from her, wouldn't you go to any length to get it granted? I applaud Whit and Lori for going to all lengths to make sure McKenna gets to Disney World.
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# 2012-07-19 08:42
AMEN!
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# 2012-07-18 22:55
This little girl deserves it a the dad is the bad guy! The mom has grown up and she is doing the adult thing by getting her daughter to Disney. If anybody deserves going to Florida, she does!
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# 2012-07-19 11:14
Amen, both parents need to grow up. There are way more important things right now than Disney Land. People are ganging up on the Dad, but what about the mom who lets him in her daughter's life. She had a case for abandonment when he was not a part of treatment and when he left a month-old baby. I would have had papers drawn up right then for him to have no rights. If my baby's father did anything remotely like that, he would be out of her life completely. People are getting so heated over this, shut your mouths and donate if you are mad, but never forget there is always more to a story and even if you know the people personally there is more that could have been done to protect this child. Any man that has abandoned a child for almost 4 years shouldn't have any rights, and the mother should have seen to that.
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# 2012-07-19 12:18
@Jan, wow.......it seems to me that you are being just like the father, turning this into a parental issue and not focusing on the child. Who are you to judge what should or should not be in a newspaper? I expect you haven't had to watch a child go through what this little girl has, and therefore you are unwilling to put yourself in her mother's shoes. I too if in that situation would do any and everything in order to give my daughter this wish if I had watched her in agony for so long. Shame on you for concerning yourself with the parents.
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# 2012-07-18 05:51
Bill May
SHAME ON YOU. You call yourself a Dad & you are so pathetic ,arrogant & self centred to do this to your child. You don't care for or about her as this just proves it. You just being so pgheaded to punish a child like this. YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF. ignorant man you are. There are not enough words to describe you
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# 2012-07-18 06:59
Can we begin a donation site for this little girl... 4K shouldn't be too hard considering.
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# 2012-07-18 14:44
The article says "Anyone wanting to donate to McKenna's trip may send donations to 5/3 Bank, to the benefit account for McKenna May." But some contact info for the bank would be nice.
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# 2012-07-19 10:57
Make a check out to 5/3 Bank for the amount you would like to donate. In the memo line, write the following: FBO McKenna May

Mail that check to 5/3 Bank, 275 South Main St., Bowling Green, Ohio 43402

If you want a receipt for the donation, just send a self addressed stamp with an envelope to the bank along with your check.
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# 2012-07-18 14:45
I agree, is there a way to donate to the family?
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# 2012-07-18 14:47
Where can I donate?
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# 2012-07-19 09:52
In an earlier post the mother said there is a website, gofundme.com has been set up for online donations, you should search Disney Wish.
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# 2012-07-18 14:56
The article says we can send donations to 5/3 bank, but could we get more info on how to donate? Maybe a mailing address? Who to make the check out to? I'm sure there are many who'd donate.
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# 2012-07-19 10:39
Anyone wishing to donate out of state can go to gofundme.com and search for Disney wish. Her story is there and you can donate directly to the site.
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# 2012-07-18 15:00
Absolutely! Let's all rally for McKenna. It appears from the article that 5/3 has set up a benefit account. I sent a check to the downtown location to her benefit. I hope that was correct.
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# 2012-07-18 13:38
You people are insane! Have you read! I applaud Mr. May. It's not like his reasons for doing this were even selfish in the least bit. He is right. She now has the rest of her life to go to disney world, and it is not like he is not going to let her go. he think that this money should go to someone who is actually terminal, and I applaud that! I certainly think this little girl is great and deserves a trip to disney world, and if the dad wants to turn down make a wish funds so they can go to another child in need, and fund the trip himself, how is that bad??? some people are so quick to judge. what this man did was very unselfish.
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# 2012-07-18 15:06
What the heck? This little girl has the rest of her life? Do you know that for sure? Did you not read the part about it being 5 years before she can be declared cancer-free? Do you know what the relapse rate of childhood leukemia is???? This little girl DESERVES disney.
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# 2012-07-18 15:15
I see your point but I doubt this man would actually fund the trip at all. He's going to take a beating in public opinion so you would think he would have made a point to tell the reporter he would pay for her to go as to not look bad in the press. He didn't & now his actions look spiteful. His daughter could still fall into remission so she isn't "free & clear" yet and she might not be healthy enough if she got a second chance if that were to happen...God forbid.
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# 2012-07-19 11:14
Not everything has 3500 dollars sitting around..
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# 2012-07-19 16:14
No, not everyone does but if he can't afford to put up, then the father should shut up. What point has he proven other than he's out to get the mother instead of what's best for his child and her happiness?
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# 2012-07-18 15:17
If he is funding the trip himself, why are the mother and grandmother using donation jars?

Could he not let his daughter have her wish and help donate to Make-a-wish after/in the mean time? This kind of action would show that he truly supports what Make-a-wish does.
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# 2012-07-19 08:52
The father is not funding the trip himself and never will. He couldn't even be bothered to make the 20 minute trip to her birhday parties the last 2 years to see her on her special day not knowing if she would have another. Get real do you really think he would spend the time or money to take her to Disney....
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# 2012-07-18 15:19
pay attention... it didn't say he will be funding it himself. it says the mother and grandmother are raising the funds for her to go. he only signed off to not let them pay for it at MAW. the organizer stated she clearly qualified to go. and cancer goes in remission, it doesn't disappear, read up childhood cancer usually comes to 3x stronger..
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# 2012-07-18 15:24
I think you are sadly mistaken sir. Once the child new about the Disney trip, it became something she was looking forward to, perhaps it even helped her get through the treatments. To take it away and tell her she doesn't deserve it is heartless and cruel. Lots of people think the girl should be able to go, it's our opinion and we are entitled to it. If you think she doesn't deserve it after going thru 2 yers of hellish treatments, then by all means don't donate--but refrain from calling us insane. Name calling doesn't prove your point or bolster your opinion, it just makes you sound like the kind of person who thinks EVERYONE is entitled to YOUR opinion, and makes us all lack complete respect for both your opinion and point of view.
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# 2012-07-18 15:26
Thank you, doctor Al... for somehow knowing she'll have a long life. Nothing is a given; this guy just wants to dip his greedy hand into the cookie jar and get what benefits him most. Hell would be too kind a place for vermin like him.
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# 2012-07-18 16:01
Maybe you should do some research before you talk about things you do not know. Make a Wish grant wishes to children who are suffering from life threatning illness not only things that are considered terminal. These children go through so much in there lives that is (IMO) pretty mean to say that you can't make a wish because you are not dieing. Not to mention that a child granted a Wish who is suffering from an illness but are in not terminal are not taking a trip away from a child who is considered terminal. Any child who is deemed worthy of a wish will get there wish. Children who are deemed more fragile than others will be bumped to the top of the line. This is coming from a mom who's son has Cystic Fibrosis and went on a wish trip in 2009. Maybe if you could see what these kids went through you would have more of an open heart.
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# 2012-07-18 18:38
Al you are an idiot. When you have gone through treatment for Leukemia, every passing day is a gift. This family will live the rest of their lives not knowing if/when this disease may return and take their little angel from them. She is an ideal Make-A-Wish candidate and her father is about as smart as you AL.
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# 2012-07-19 02:10
You think she will have a long life huh? Tell that to my brother, and when you do, look up, because he is an angel now. He was in remission for three years and then suddenly it came back and there was nothing they could do...Make A Wish sent him to a horse ranch that he LOVED the 2nd year of his remission. He cherished those memories and held the toy horse he got from it on his death bed - it went into his coffin with him. You, sir, are an ignorant jerk. Not unlike this little girls sperm donor.
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# 2012-07-19 04:22
Al she is NOT cured! Did you even read the article. NO cancer patient is considered cured until five years has passed.

And where does it say the father wants to fund the trip? Its the mother who is funding the trip with the help of others.
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# 2012-07-19 08:48
No it's not about that at all. It is about the dad who has never been there and wants a free trip for his family an not getting it. It is his way of sayingif my new family can't go neither can she.... wake up and red the artical. It's all abot him having control not about McKenna o granting another childs wsh at all.... Make a Wish has different people and companies and fund raisers that go towoward a spacific childs wish to gain the funds to send them so no child is left out. If the father was involved he would know that.
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# 2012-07-19 10:31
Well said Al. MAW cannot grant all wish request; I believe they should go to those most in need.

Instead of point fingers, maybe these blog-posters could contact the local news agency or police department and see how they can pitch in to send this little girl to Disney.

Yes she deserves a trip, but does is have to be at the expense of a terminal child who might not then get their wish?
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# 2012-07-19 10:46
I HAD A NEICE WHO WAS GRANTED A MAKE-A WISH TRIP TO DISNEY, SHE PASSED 3 DAYS LATER. THESE TRIPS ARE FOR TERMINALLY ILL
CHILDREN, SORRY FOLKS, THE FATHER IS RIGHT.BUT......HE SHOULD BE OUT THERE SUPPORTING HER AND RAISING THE FUNDS TO GET HER TO DISNEY,GOD BLESS THIS FAMILY.
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# 2012-07-19 11:23
Yet the spokesperson for the Make a wish foundation says that she qualifies. I've seen people get a wish granted who are not terminal.
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# 2012-07-19 15:46
You both you and the father are wrong.
Make -A- wish grants wishes for children facing "life threatening" conditions, It must be approved by the doctor and the Make a wish folks. Giving her the trip does not keep any other person from getting a wish granted. If MAW approved her wish, then she is entitled to it!
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# 2012-07-19 10:52
Al, I cannot belive that you are asking us "Have you read!" Maybe you should be the one reading! NOWHERE does it say the dad will fund the trip. He is NOT funding the trip one bit. The mother and grandmother are the ones taking it upon themselves to get the daughter to Disney. Plus, the girl may be terminal. Doctors say it will be 5 years before she can be considered cured. There is still the possibility that the girl may die. The dad is doing this for purely selfish reasons, period! End of story!!
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# 2012-07-19 12:20
Al, Are you for real or just trying to act Manly? How quick you are to think this "Dad" will ever be anything more than a title to this poor child.
Who are we to determine how ill a child with cancer even in remission is?
That "Dad" is never gonna send this child to Disneyland!! I just feel sorry that a child in this condition has a heartless "Dad". It takes much more than a title to be a real Dad... he definitely doesn't make the cut!!
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# 2012-07-19 15:43
Al:
Obivously you DID NOT read the entire article. That is the only excuse you could possibly have for posting what you did. She is not cured, her father has not been a part of her life up until this point, and he is not willing to fund the trip, nor is he trying to raise money for the trip - her mother and grandmother are. Please explain to me "what this man did was very unselfish". He should have to go through what his (by blood only) daughter went through. Mom should buck up and get the court order, and let her child go on the trip. They all deserve it.
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# 2012-07-24 12:12
Rest of her life? Define that exactly. The child has fought leukemia. Still isn't out of the woods. Chance of relapse, other cancers developing, etc. What gives this father the ability to make the determination of how much longer this child has to live? Is he God? He is denying his daughter this opportunity because his new family cannot go without him footing the bill. PERIOD! Who in their right mind would not allow any child... especially their own...this opportunity. You, Al, and Mr. May, are the insane ones.
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# 2012-07-18 14:15
That woman who was bullied on the school bus should donate some of the money they raised for her to this little girl's wish.
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# 2012-07-18 14:36
From someone who knows how hard it is to watch your child suffer and you are helpless to make them better. We went to Disney on Make A Wish. For those who are not "informed" the trip is for all of the people who have been actively involved in this child when she has suffered this illness so she can regain the focus of normalcy in her life. May you need to step back think how you would feel if she was still sick and see how blessed you and family are. My girl was not cured and we cherish Make A Wish for all the great memories.
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# 2012-07-18 14:50
Can you give more details on where to send/make out donations to for us people from other states?
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# 2012-07-18 14:53
This is sooo sad.
Unfortunately, "Dad", needs some lessons on how to be a human being. I know the tug of war for children and visitation can get ugly, however, this story goes above and beyond any of that.
He really made me sick to my stomach. This little girl has been through enough, she should go to Disney, of course. And, for her Father keeping that dream from his little girl, makes him nothing more than a sperm donor. Not a Dad.
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# 2012-07-18 14:55
This is a typical Narcissist. It is always about them and they can be male or female. But they will suck the happiness out of every family event or opportunity and ruin it. I guarantee he will not pay for anything for this child as she grows up even if he is a millionaire. If there is a fund to send this child to Disney I will contribute!!! God Bless this sweet child.
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# 2012-07-18 14:57
I have two daughters who have both received Make-A-Wish Wishes at different times (years apart). (One do to Spina Bifida and the other to No wall in the upper chambers of her heart). Their dad was not in the picture and had NO visitation. When they determined them eligible, I explained about the dad and they made me sign waviers stating he was not involved and show a copy of my court order stating I had full legal and pysicial custody. I am not sure why they are giving you such a hard time. I had no issues and both girls got their wishes.
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# 2012-07-19 00:39
They told us because he has visatation that he has parental rights and it does not matter who has custody. Even so though, I have no order stating I have custody signed from a judge. We were never married so when she was born I automatically had full custody. Unmarried mothers are not given any court documents stating this however. I have paper work stating I have custody but it isn't signed from a judge.
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# 2012-07-19 11:18
Well it sounds like it is your own fault. Women get all mad when the baby's fathers come and ruin everything, but they do nothing to protect their kids. Get on the ball lady!! And don't use the past two years of her being in treatment as an excuse. She had a whole two years of health you could have been working on getting sole custody signed by a lawyer. Come on single moms/dads, step up and protect your kids. You never know when the dead beat parent will be back to screw your life up...this is a perfect example..
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# 2012-07-20 11:13
@ Eman... go educate yourself on family law. I'm in the same situation as this mother and if the father claims no rights to a child within a set amount of days after her birth the mother automatically gets full custody. The court wont draw up papers regarding this because the birth certificate functions as the order. This mother did nothing wrong... you should educate yourself on the subject matter before you go around pointing the finger at a mother who has done absolutely nothing wrong... in fact she has done everything right.
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# 2012-07-20 12:39
I find it odd that the family court didn't establish custody when it granted visitation.
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# 2012-07-20 14:31
Because the mother has had full custody since the child was born automatically. Thats what happens when a father ABANDONS his child. It happened to me as well. The father can then come back for visitation at any time, but that will not change automatic custody unless the father fights the existing custody arrangement... which most don't because they will not win so long as there is nothing wrong with the mother. Which in this case there is not. She seems to be doing an amazing job!
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# 2012-07-18 14:58
We absolutely need the full address and phone number of the bank in Ohio for out of towners to donate. Lets get that little girl the royal "PRINCESS" treatment which she deserves. I want her to have the special Princess Day in Disney.
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# 2012-07-18 14:59
Try contacting Give Kids The World http://www.gktw.org/
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# 2012-07-18 14:59
How can we donate to this little girl so she can go to Disney world with out her horrible excuse for a father signing off??
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# 2012-07-19 10:37
Make a check out to 5/3 Bank for the amount you would like to donate. In the memo line, write the following: FBO McKenna May

Mail that check to 5/3 Bank, 275 South Main St., Bowling Green, Ohio 43402

If you want a receipt for the donation, just send a self addressed stamp with an envelope to the bank along with your check.
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# 2012-07-18 14:59
McKenna should be the focus here. So let's all show our love and support and make a donation to her benefit at 5/3 or find one of those jars. Let's get this courageous little girl to Disney!!! Who's with me?
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# 2012-07-19 08:57
AMEN!
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# 2012-07-18 15:00
I was reading this on line, all the way from WA.I can't believe this guy! How can he call himself a father? I hope the national attention this story is getting will in some way shame an obviously obtuse person. I hope some day his daughter will be able to ask him why he did this to her. what i don't understand is, why did they need him to sign off on this?
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# 2012-07-18 15:00
What a disgusting creep, not letting his daughter go on that trip even though the Make-A-Wish foundation has said she is qualified to go. He doesn't really give a **** about that kid and its a shame he would step over his daughter and break her heart just to take cheap shots at the mother and grandmother. How pathetic. With a dad like that who needs an enemy. That's why he has limited visitations, he's a selfish bastard.
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# 2012-07-18 15:02
Saw this on Yahoo! this afternoon, and am appalled. I have a daughter and couldn't even imagine taking away her dream of going to Disney.

Gotta be someone out there in America that can pull a few strings and get a Disney trip for the girl, Mom and grandma...sorry Dad but you blew it and I think you should stay home. Oprah, Ellen, ABC, if you see this article do something.
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# 2012-07-18 15:05
Ten years after our son's death, I have never regretted changing my mind about who Make a Wish should be allowed to gift. At first, I felt that after the successful, intial brain surgery our son was doing so much better than other children who were still weak and suffering, and (a little like the father) thought they should be the recipients of Make a Wish. Luckily, I had a wonderful hospital family support worker who explained that just because he was doing well now, he still had radiation treatments and there may be more illness ahead. Plus he had gone through what no child should ever have to. I will never forget our son's joy at having his wish granted... one that he continued to enjoy for the next, nearly five years, during which his health seemed good, until the cancer returned. May the father reconsider his decision.
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# 2012-07-18 16:17
I am so sorry for your loss...and thank you for sharing your story here. This is exactly why he needs to appreciate his daughter and the time he has with her now, and not allow her to be a pawn in the war between him and his ex. Bless you and your family!
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# 2012-07-18 15:06
Al
It does state in the article that doctors do not and will not consider her "Cancer Free" for five years. Plus what the article does not say is that Make-A-Wish does not just go on a parents "idea" of what is terminal, they contact your doctors and those doctors have to agree that the child has a life-threatening medicial condition. If you look at the website for Make-A-Wish you will see you don't have to be "terminal" to be granted a wish. I feel that unless this dad is a doctor, he should be thankful for his daughter and whatever time she has whether it is days or years. Let her be a kid and be happy.
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# 2012-07-18 15:06
My daughter had leukemia 41/2 years old
she is 31years old . no one give us tripp. I think if the little one who are not go to make it though treatment should get it the DR know who they are . The dr can told you in five to week if the treatment working . we had three year of treatment it was not fun . We will keep praying for all who have leukemia because I know what try go thought . A love mom ,grandmom .
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# 2012-07-18 15:06
My question is when you get the money to go is the dad going too?
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# 2012-07-18 15:23
God I would hope not unless he pays half with out the donation funds, since i'm sure he isn't trying to raise them himself!
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# 2012-07-19 00:44
No he is not going. I offered him to come along on the trip but he still refused to sign the papers. He stated that he did not want to go to Disney.
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# 2012-07-18 15:09
Shame on the father for denying his child a trip of a lifetime. If Make-A-Wish said she is eligible then he is selfish for his actions. His daughter fought for her life and she is as deserving as any other child fighting their disease. If her father loves her as he says, he should make it up to her by paying for the trip himself. He should be ashamed of himself. I would gladly donate if someone would tell me where I can. McKenna, her mother & grandmother deserve to have fun after all they've been through.
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# 2012-07-18 15:12
As of 3 p.m.Wednesday, July 18, the only donation set up is through 5/3Bank, 275 S. Main St., Bowling Green, Ohio 43402
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# 2012-07-18 15:32
Thanks Harold! I keep trying to re-post this info to the yahoo article, but am having trouble. If you have time, could you re-post this to yahoo so more people around the country know where to donate? I actually live in TN and had to do a lot of digging to find that info.
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# 2012-07-18 15:23
Instead of commenting on the parents war, i'll just donate. Im contacting 5/3 bank today. Thanks Harold Brown for putting up the info.
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# 2012-07-18 15:26
Al how do you know she has the rest of her life??? Hopefully this girl has beat the disease but once you complete treatments and are in remission don't mean you are home free. Where did it say in this article that the dad was going to fund the trip himself?? I can not imagine what this little one has went through and she deserved to go through make a wish and enjoy all the extras and anyone who don't agree with that has issues!
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# 2012-07-18 15:30
I just called their bank to find out about making a donation.

Make a check out to 5/3 Bank for the amount you would like to donate. In the memo line, write the following: FBO McKenna May

Mail that check to 5/3 Bank, 275 South Main St., Bowling Green, Ohio 43402

If you want a receipt for the donation, just send a self addressed stamp with an envelope to the bank along with your check.

This child needs to get her Make-A-Wish one way or another!
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# 2012-07-18 15:56
Nice job Eric! you had more luck than I did contacting the bank. They will be getting one more check from Fort Worth Texas!
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# 2012-07-18 15:37
I just read about this on a Yahoo News Feed. I obviously know very little about the circumstances surrounding this family. What I do know is that Disney World, as large as it is, also truly cares about its visitors. Please have the family contact the special services division (not sure of exact name) to see if Disney can in fact help make this little girl's dream a better possibility. They may not be able to "do it all" but I would be willing to bet they could "help" to make it happen. Perhaps a little on-line research would give them a better idea what to ask for when they call. PLEASE MAKE THAT CALL. Smile... Betty L
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# 2012-07-18 15:40
Hey guys, I work with WePay.com and we'd be happy to help set up a page where people could donate to McKenna online. If someone from the family could get in touch (855-GO-WEPAY or pam - AT- wepay.com) it'd take less than 5 minutes to set up! Check out wepay.com/donations for more info.
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# 2012-07-19 13:53
Sending money to the 5/3 bank won't skim 3.5% from the donation.

Are you saying your company will set up an account without fees?
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# 2012-07-18 15:42
From Tennessee to you McKenna......a donation is on the way! Disneyland is a truly fun place. It has been over 30 years since I got to visit, but I still have all my pictures with Mickey and the gang. I can't wait to hear that you got to go. Hang in there, you are blessed and doing great!
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# 2012-07-18 15:59
God Bless little McKenna May. I just know the people of the United States will put their hearts out to help this precious little girl get to Disney. We just took our own 4 kids there. It was magical! We are not affluent, but all 6 of us agreed to give up some Christmas gifts to help this sweet girl get to experience what we did. She has been such a trooper! Let's all help out even a little. If we all give even a little, we will get her there! Think about how blessed we have all been and pay it forward! To her family...Please send a post out when she gets there!
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# 2012-07-18 17:32
personnaly I think the father should have the same cancer as the 4 year old and find who he thinks, what it is like the pain of the procesures to get to that state of so call being cured! Their will always be a recheck down the road within a year or too, just a chance to see disnyland will help reward all the hard work this little girl has had to endure will make all the difference in the world!!! nancyringdahl25 2
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# 2012-07-18 17:36
WOW... Just like everyone else that has posted in reply to this jack@$$ of a dad... I honestly believe it has much more to do with mother/father conflict than anyone will admit... Poor girl too... glad she is feeling better.
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# 2012-07-18 18:40
I am writing Disney, and Give Kids The World to see if we can help this happen .
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# 2012-07-18 19:54
I could hardly believe that this story could be true when a friend posted it on her facebook. First and formost thank you to all of the friends and family that have gone through and stood beside this little girl throughout her struggle these last few yrs. I think you all deserve this trip! Can someone please post the details on how and where people that are not local can make a donation? And anyone reading this if you have facebook please share this story. We can make this happen. So happy your little body is on the mend McKenna! Can't wait to hear about your trip to Disney!!!! :)
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# 2012-07-18 20:02
They really need to do this trip in the Make a Wish style. There is just no comparison to going as a regular visitor vs. going as a wish child. They would get to stay for free at an amazing place called Give Kids the World Village that is almost as amazing as Disneyworld itself. They would also get a special pass to get to the front of all the rides and character meet and greets. This can usually only be done through wish organizations, so I really hope that they can go through Make A Wish instead of just funding the trip themselves.
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# 2012-07-18 21:08
Father of the year - NOT !!!
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# 2012-07-18 23:30
Mckenna, I will send you money to go to Disneyworld in a heartbeat. As a full grown ADULT i still LOVE going to disneyland. I would also like to send you a care package with different disney things in them (gift cards, maybe a princess dress or shirt for you to wear?. If i could get a acutal address i could send this to i would gladly do it in a heart beat, feel free to email me (special created accnt just for this) Disneyfreak10@yahoo.com a address i can send this box to as well as sizes.

Thank you!
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# 2012-07-19 15:55
Sarah, I've read through most of the posts and your post brought tears to my eyes; what a beautiful, kind gesture in such an awful situation. Bless you!
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# 2012-07-18 23:42
I am whitneys best friend and have been there for mckenna and the family pretty much the whole cancer treatment period. This little girl has gone though soo much in the past 2 yrs. She deserves this trip. She is not cancer free until 5 yrs from now. And I can say that bill hasn't been there for his daughter. He may have visited 2 or 3 times in the hospital. It was all of us friends of the family helping whitney make sure mckenna was taken care of when she was stuck in the hospital and mckenna wanted special food and did whatever to help get her levels up. Bill is 1 selfish person and if he don't believe she should go then maybe he should pay for her to go. Oh I forgot he don't have a dime to his name he's too busy maken more babies he can't afford to take care of. I love u mckenna and we will all make sure u go see cinderella!!
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# 2012-07-21 23:10
Is there a way you can send me a home address to her or someone close to her? i would LOVE to send a box of stuff for her to take with (clothes, autograph book, gift cards). EVERY princess deserves to go to at least one disney park! I would be forever greatful if i could get some sort of address to send a box too. Thanks

My email is disneyfreak10@yahoo.com
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# 2012-07-19 02:50
From Mauritania and Germany, a check will be forthcoming. God bless you, McKenna.
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# 2012-07-19 07:01
My grandson went on his MAW- We have custody so permission wasnt needed. They did pay for my husband and I and the childs mommy to go. We live in Florida so we just had to drive ourselves there. They wouldnt pay for the father because he wasnt involved in our grandchilds life as much as he could be (he was in the Army). It was MAW's choice not ours. Once there everything was provided to us by Give Kids the World. Now that is if her wish is to stay there. She may want to stay on Disney property. This is the childs wish and only the child gets input.
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# 2012-07-19 07:08
Here is a reason why this man should not have contact with his daughter what a vindictive act.
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# 2012-07-19 09:21
God Bless you, McKenna & Mom & Grandma!!

I was deeply saddened by this story & will be sending a donation. I also emailed the Ellen Degeneres Show. I know Ellen has a big heart. Maybe she can help make McKenna's dream come true! :)
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# 2012-07-19 09:51
Who is he to say how those funds are spent. MAW is very up front about how donations are used and if someone didn't want their money used that way they wouldn't donate it. Transparent, spiteful reasoning. And, what's the deal about MAW saying they wouldn't honor a court order. That also seems fishy.
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# 2012-07-19 10:23
I applaud this father. I know a family who accepted a Make-a-Wish trip (family of four to Hawaii) for a child without a life-threatening illness. I have empathy for any sick child, but I agree with the father that MAW trips should be for terminal cases. Not all wishes can be granted. Reserve them for the most needy.
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# 2012-07-19 11:08
You ARE WRONG about how Make-A-Wish gives out wishes and to whom they go. These are not "last wishes" When the org. first started they were (my best friend got one way back in the early 80's under that business model.) However now these wishes are used for any child that is deemed needy/worthy based on the extent of their ordeal. It is not up to you or this selfish non-father to decide how MAW uses it's DONATED funds. If you don't like how they are used then don't donate. When my darling angel got his wish granted he was not considered terminal but cancer has a mind of it's own and less than a year later he was gone. If they offered a wish they the patient should have had it granted. I am going to make a guess that you neither have children nor have you ever been close to one with a serious illness.
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# 2012-07-19 14:02
I never stated MAW's policy for approving a wish. I'm stating my opinion that there are those with greater needs than others.
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# 2012-07-19 12:23
Did you read what that poor baby had to endure while she was being treated? Did you also miss the part of the article where it said she wouldn't be considered "cancer free" until 5 YEARS AFTER her last treatment? The doctor's who treat these children are the ones who decide whether or not they meet the criteria for a wish. It's not up to you, or the sorry excuse McKenna has for a father, to judge. These children go through hell and fight like warriors. Just because they don't die (and thank God for that) doesn't mean they don't deserve a special treat and it doesn't mean they aren't "needy". Hopefully you'll never have to deal with the pain, fear, and uncertainty of a child that you love getting a potentially fatal disease.
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# 2012-07-19 13:06
DustyT,
I volunteer for the Make a Wish Foundation and meet these wonderful kids. The process was originally based off the life threatening illness situation. Now that the medical industry has advanced so much, luckily many of these children survive. And it takes place after years of therapies and surgeries to a young child who just wants to play outside. It is about giving them 1 day or week to forget about the horror that they have to go through to rid their bodies of these horrible diseases. I'm curious to the child you speak of and the disease they had. If it was not a life threatening disease they would not have granted the wish.
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# 2012-07-19 14:00
I too have empathy for any ill child and have volunteered at my local Ronald McDonald House.

I never stated anyone didn't deserve a wish. I'm stating there are those who are more in need than other, and MAW cannot financially grant all wishes.

Auto accident with full-recovery, and yes MAW did grant the wish.
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# 2012-07-19 10:34
No wonder they got a divorce, who would want to live with that scrooge. To do this to his own daughter is outrageous, and just to get back at the mother. Grow up little boy, you are such a loser.
Your daughter won't forget this, and will hate you when she is grown..How does that make you feel?
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# 2012-07-19 10:47
Ok people, I sent my $25.00 donation now lets you match it!
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# 2012-07-19 11:35
Love it!
But sorry, not matching here as we just sent $50 :D
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# 2012-07-19 10:52
just being petty and childish! That is NO WAY to celebrate his daughters accomplisment of finishing treatments! Please lets help this little girl go and I hope that she has a great memory and fun DESPITE her IDIOTIC dad
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# 2012-07-19 12:44
This father is so out of touch with what his daughter has experienced. Cancer for a child is one of the most horrible things they can experience and any parent would want to give their child a since of hope for life and a trip to Disney World would be a great experience and one that can assist with replacing some of the horrible experiences from her cancer treatment. I hope this father stops being so selfish and show some more love........
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# 2012-07-19 11:04
McKenna,it's not much but a check is on the way to 5/3 bank. I hope you get to Disney World soon. Jesus loves you McKenna, he loves all children. God Bless You from a grandma in North Carolina.
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# 2012-07-19 11:21
The father decision is the CORRECT ONE. Although he does not sound like much of a father --- but charities and governments are not unlimited sources of money to be taken advantage of. Of course it is horrible what the girl has been through and I cannot imagine -- however I am sure in time she will realize possibly being CURED is better than a vacation. I have donated and helped raise money for make a wish -- but it was always under the understanding that it was for ones with limited time left. Now I will be cynical of yet another charity because of this. This is supposed to be for a childs dieing wish --- not a vacation for a family that has been through alot and thier child is cured (AND I DO PRAY THAT SHE IS CURED AND HAS A BLESSED LIFE. Nothing is free in life and all charities are short on funds due to the economy.
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# 2012-07-19 13:52
But she's NOT "cured." She can't be considered "cancer-free" until after five years has passed. Do you know nothing of childhood cancers? My husband lost his 10 year old cousin to cancer. Her cancer had been declared in remission only a short handful of months before it came back even more violently than before to steal her young life away in a short manner of weeks.
This girl's been through Hell and back, and she's not out of the woods yet.
Also, MAW doesn't just do "terminally ill" wishes, but they also do life-threatening illness wishes! If childhood leukemia isn't a life-threatening illness, I don't know what is.
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# 2012-07-19 11:24
I am truly disgusted by the sperm donor, at least that is the way he is behaving!!!

Just send $50 ~ let's get them flying FIRST CLASS!!!
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# 2012-07-19 13:16
Sorry, typo here, I meant 'Just *sent* $50' I would never mean to tell others how much to give or where to give to. Sorry 'bout that.
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# 2012-07-19 11:27
Read the headline of national article - I supported the mother.

Read the national article - I supported the father (felt that he was hoping beyond hope his daughter would be okay and graciously giving the trip to an "ill" child since her wish (to be alive) has been granted.

Read the local article - I return my support for the mother and child. The father does sound vindictive towards the mother. If the Make-A-Wish people were aware of her successful treatments and were okay with her having the trip then it should be allowed.

Also, if neither parent was physically abusive towards each other, they should be encouraged to get counseling to learn how to better to communicate with one another in issues regarding their daughter (which hopefully they will have issues to contend with until she is 18 and beyond).
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# 2012-07-19 11:29
Wait a minute-in no way do any of us know the whole story. We are only hearing this from the mothers side, no direct quotes from make-a-wish, and no background about the father from the father. When she got pregnant did she allow him to be involved? Or did he have to fight for many years just to see her? I agree she should be able to have make-a-wish fund the trip, but saying no to this does not make him a beast, it just makes him wrong-ant thats assuming we have all the facts. Just like any other media story-anyone can say or print anything-it does NOT make it true. I have no idea either way but I am smart enough to know that there is almost always more to the story.God bless this little girl and I pray for full remission and that she will be able to have a full life where BOTH parents are allowed to be an equal part of her life.
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# 2012-07-19 14:09
Wait - Hold the Presses - this is about a girl and HER battle - honestly even if its about father time lets just put that aside for now and get her there! She is battling cancer as well has to deal with parents who both need to grow up - again lets focus on the girl
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# 2012-07-19 14:11
Oh my goodness a voice of reason. What a refreshing change of pace. I can't (well really I can) believe how people are quick to condemn this guy with no really insight to their relationship.
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# 2012-07-19 11:31
Everyone on here, give what you can, even $5 and we can all make this happen for the little girl.
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# 2012-07-19 11:48
What a despicable human being! How could he do that to his own little girl who has endured so much in her short life. He's just torturing her with his own immature pettiness.

All I can sat to him is well, you know what, 'Daddy'? Karma's a bitch and you will get yours.
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# 2012-07-19 11:56
I am a father of a son who recently gone through cancer treatments - chemo, spinel taps and many long days in a hospital bed - after his treatments he was granted a "Make - A - Wish" trip - which allowed him a "Break" from all the chalenges he faced - he was not considered cured but cancer was not detected - sadly just this week we have found out it is back. I think this father needs ot look back at the process and understand she is not cured (we do hope she is) and she lived through alot for such a young girl - Dad get a life its not about you its about her!
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# 2012-07-19 12:12
I realize the father seems selfish, but what has not come out is that the grandparents (Lori Helppie)were getting a free trip as well, they told MAW that the father was not in the picture so they should get to go. When William was contacted the truth came out and they decided to cancel the MAW. The grandparents plan to move to Florida and were using the trip as a way to look for a house there too...NOT EVERYTHING IS AS IT SEEMS EVEN IF ITS IN THE PAPER!
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# 2012-07-19 14:04
Still how is the victim here? So what about the mother and grand parents - waht dad missed out and feels he should go? really who is the victim!
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# 2012-07-20 12:10
When my step son was granted a wish guess what...both parents and their significant others were offered to go also AS well as the grandparents and all the siblings including the step brothers and sisters...MAW does not single people out if it has affected the family as a whole and the child asks for you to go with them. I am a huge Disney fan and wish there was a way I could send her a care package to help keep her hopes up until she can get to Disney World! If the bank will accept a pkg if you could let me know Whitney that would be awesome!
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# 2012-07-20 14:33
The best thing they could do is find a house, move the little girl to Florida so she doesn't have to go thru anymore idiotic "dad" decisions. The grandparents, who from what I've read, have been right there with Mckenna and the mom during this time, have every right to go if the MAW foundation wants them to. MAW did not cancel the trip for the reasons you state- careful about libel here.
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# 2012-07-19 12:13
If every indignant commenter has sent $20 to the fund her mother set up they're on their way to Disney already.
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# 2012-07-19 12:16
I agree with the dad, but I'll gladly make a donation. Congratulations McKenna and may God bless you in your continued fight to defeat that dreaded disease.
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# 2012-07-19 12:17
With this story being published....she will have the money within a week. What they need to do is set up a bank account. After they get the necessary funds to cover the trip and souvenirs and memories.....donate the rest to Make-a-wish.
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# 2012-07-19 12:19
I don't understand why Make-A-Wish doesn't just make a donation to the fund that the mother set up for McKenna. What this "father" is doing is disgusting and the fact that he's denying that beautiful little girl some type of reward for fighting for her life is beyond heartbreaking. It sounds to me like he wasn't going to be included on her trip, wonder if that has anything to do with him denying her permission to go? Good luck McKenna! You're in my prayers.
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# 2012-07-19 12:27
As unbelievably hurtful and selfish this "father" is, some of the comments left here siding with him have shocked me more.
We are in a day and age where cancer awareness in ALL it shapes and forms is prevalent, and the info is there at your fingertips! This isn't something that is cured with a round of antibiotics, you don't JUST finish a treatment and find yourself good to go.

Keep your head up Mckenna, you are such a brave girl. My love, support and thoughts go our to you and your family and look forward to hearing that you got your well deserved trip to Disney.
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# 2012-07-19 12:36
It's sad that her Dad can't see beyond his resentment of her mother and grandma to let his daughter enjoy this trip. Leukemia treatment is no joke, spinal taps in particular are so painful! I'm glad they left the bank info... let's get this girl the experience she deserves, screw the father and what he thinks! He wasn't even around until earlier this year.
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# 2012-07-19 12:37
It takes a man to be a Dad!
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# 2012-07-19 12:38
As of 12 minutes ago, they reached the goal at gofundme.com !!! Stay well sweetheart
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# 2012-07-19 12:40
This guy is an idiot, not a father, we all see that. Now, everyone send this grandmother, mother and little girl $5-$10 and we will have them all going to Disney by the end of the day.
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# 2012-07-19 12:51
My stepfather’s son had leukemia and he was also granted a Make-A-Wish trip to Disney World. It was an awesome experience for him and I know through the generosity of people you will have your trip too McKenna!! Best wishes to you and your family!!
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# 2012-07-19 13:04
I just went to the gofundme website and it appears as if they have surpassed their $3500 goal for the trip. According to the website - they have raised $4,080 towards the trip on the site alone. This does not include any money raised through 5/3 bank. I am happy to see that McKenna will achieve her dream of a trip to Disney.
To her father - you really need to grow up and learn how to put your child first. When you become a parent - the world is no longer about you but about that beautiful being that you helped create. You should be doing everything in your power to give her a happy life.
As a mom of a chronically ill teenager (albeit not terminally) - my life revolves around my son and his needs. THAT is what being a parent is all about!!
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# 2012-07-19 13:17
Geez. The comment section of this page makes me weep. Look, I see the guys point and agree with it. Disneyland isn't Jurassic Park. You can still afford it. Maybe he's got a good enough job to pay for it soon. Maybe a relative will send them instead. He's saying "Thanks Make-A-Wish, but instead of having people donate money all the time, save a little and take someone who may not make it through the year". I work with the 501st and have watched 2 kids pass away this year. THEY could have gone instead of someone who has the chance to see it later. It's called being nice and having common sense. Disneyland isn't the Holy Grail and it's always open. She's only 4. She'll, thankfully, have her whole life ahead of her to go.
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# 2012-07-19 13:38
In a post above the mother has invited the father to go too but he has declined and "doesn't want to go to Disney". For the sake of his daughter I wish he would "man up", go and have a great time with his daughter. I think this little girl has had enough of a hard time in her short life. She doesn't need a parent causing her more grief.
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# 2012-07-19 13:20
This little girl's situation is similar to what I went through as a child. When I was 5 I completed my last treatment for leukemia and was granted a Make-A-Wish trip to Disneyland; my parents made the decision to pass it up for the same reason as this father, but with one key difference, my family was well off enough to take me to Disneyland regardless. I'm now in my 20's and absolutely think my parents made the right decision. This father in particular just sounds a grade-A jerk, though. I'll always remember going through leukemia, but I will also never forget that trip to Disneyland. She deserves to go after the hell she's been through.
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# 2012-08-27 22:57
Having just lost my son to cancer in April, this just confuses the hell out of me. How in this world could that father deny his child this. She is 5 years old, her dad has no idea what all she went through the way it sounds. Just because she is cancer free today, there are no guarantees that it won't be back tomorrow because itcan be that quick. This is just wrong.
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# 2012-07-19 13:31
This man should think about karma.
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# 2012-07-19 13:31
My daughter also is a leukemia survivor and she did go on a Make A Wish trip to Disneyland. Make A Wish puts you up in a Disneyland hotel with special guest privelages and you get special treatment at the park which no amount of money could buy. Specail seating and tickets for events. This little girl was robbed of a wonderful reward for what she went through. Her father obviously was not around to witness any of her treatment because chemo is ugly and no child should have to endure it.
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# 2012-07-19 13:31
Make-A-Wish is NOT for terminally ill children. It is for children with a LIFE THREATENING disease. There is a big difference (The Starlight Foundation deals with terminal cases). My son is a wish kid. They sent us to Disneyland 18 years ago. My son is now 21 and doing fine. Getting him here through more than 40 surgeries was pure hell, but he's a fighter, and now volunteers each summer at camp for kids with similar issues. This dad is obviously using this child to get back at his mom. (He's probably upset HE's not going)
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# 2012-07-19 13:36
I am so sick of parents complaining that they aren't permitted to be involved in their kids lives!! Do something about it! Go to court. Beg and borrow for money to pay for a lawyer if that is what is holding you back. Even if you are paying off the lawyer when your kids leave for college, it will be worth it. Don't take it out on your kids. And if you want your kids to respect you when they are adults, don't bash their other parent. If the other parent is a loser, the smart people you raised will figure it out. And won't resent you for souring what relation they do have with the other parent.
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# 2012-07-19 13:43
I am from BG and live near Nashville, TN now, but I just wanted to say that this story made Nashville News. It was nice to see BG OH, instead of BG, KY, on the news but it's sad it's for something like this.
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# 2012-07-19 13:43
I really hate to say this...but...is cancer ever truly CURED!? I know lots of people who were in remission for over 10 years before it reared it's ugly head again. The doctors have already stated that it is a five year wait before they can actually pronounce her cancer free...yet her father refuses the trip because she is CURED!
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# 2012-07-19 13:49
McKenna, Congrats on reaching your goal. I am excited for you. Keep working toward those 5 years.
Bill, I hope you rot in hell. You took something that YOUR DAUGHTER really wanted away from her. Shame on you for actually calling yourself a father. You need to be fixed and you need to sign your rights to McKenna off. What, you thought you would get something out of your baby being sick and that's why you walked your skanky butt back in to her life? Did you actually think that you would get to go to Disneyworld and find another girl to knock up? I hope you get cancer and that is NOT something I wish on anyone. Your baby is not "cured" and actually will never be fully restored. In fact, since she has no more of her own blood, maybe your DNA has been erased. Maybe because she doesn't have her original hair you have been erased. BELIEVE.
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# 2012-07-19 17:09
He is already married and just had his 4th child on Tuesday
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# 2012-07-19 13:55
I still have not figured out how people are so sure this little girl is out of the woods and that she will have a chance to go later. This guy couldn't make her dr's appts or her birthdays and he thinks he has a right to make a decision like this.
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# 2012-07-19 13:57
To the Mom, Whitney,
Don't know if you believe in God, but I am sending up prayers for your family. We will be sending a donation for little McKenna! From one mom to another, be sure to take plenty of pictures at Disney!! Lastly, I just want to say that I live in Florida, and you may want to plan your trip for late summer/early fall. It's really hot right now, and raining everyday. You will get the most enjoyment out of the trip when the weather cools a little.
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# 2012-07-19 14:07
What a LOSER!!!!! Really? its his own daughter hes taking a wish away from! If I was the mother I would do anything and everything in my power to have ALL of his rights revoked permanently! Someone like that shouldnt be in her life anyways! What a sorry sack of s*** for a father!!!! Anyone can be a father, but it takes a special man to be a daddy. I pray the Lord sends this little girl a DADDY ASAP so he can whoop her "fathers" a**!!!!! UGHHHHHH This has me outraged!!!!!!
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# 2012-07-19 14:38
This father was never married to the mother and only recently came into the child's life. The Foundation should only require the signature of the custodial parent, which in this case, is the mother. There is obviously something else going on here. And she is in remission, not cured.
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# 2012-07-19 14:47
Actually, this whole thing demonstrates what good judgment both women have in keeping the "father" away. As he himself said, he is taking this away from his daughter to get at the mother and maternal grandmother. He does not care anything about the little girl, and would be less than good to her. I hope those two use this to protect their daughter in future legal proceedings.
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# 2012-07-19 15:11
I just wrote a check for $100. C'mon! Open up your wallets, you cheapskates. Ante up. Get your cash in the bucket! I've never been so disgusted by my fellow Bowling Greenites. Some of you are walking around with your chests puffed out waiting for someone to pin a medal on it because you picked up your couch cushions and mailed off the $25 or $50 you found under them. You ought to be ashamed. Ever been to Disney World? Brunch with Mickey doesn't come cheap! It's a wonderful world, indeed -- and an expensive one! Take a night off of bellying-up to another all-you-can-eat buffet or sliding hundreds through the window at Hollywood Casino and send that money to this Disney dream vacation fund. GO BIG OR GO HOME!
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# 2012-07-19 15:15
Just mailed my check to 5/3 Bank. Not sure of your schedule, Whitney/McKenna, but if you have enough donations by late Sept./Oct., Mickey's not so scary Halloween is a cool time to go. I don't know if Disney has a "down" time anymore, but my family and I went last October and it was a great time. The lines for the most popular attractions were long, but not as long as the "peek" season(s). The not-so-scary Halloween parades are, in my opinion, the coolest Disney has to offer. Good luck, good health and mail dad a post card when you get there ;).
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# 2012-07-19 15:16
At first I was like, why is this man being so petty. But I have to agree with him on numerous items. First, I agree about the healthy trips. I do fI also had to respect the fact that he wants her near by and not moved to Florida. Apparently there is a little more to the planned trip than the article was willing to explain. McKenna stays with her father. I also fault this article for the lack of clear and balanced reporting. At first glance he is the bad guy, and I don't think he got a fair shake.
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# 2012-07-19 15:20
I am registered nurse that has worked in oncology and bone marrow transplant. I am truly disgusted by the actions of this man. These patients can spend months on end in the hospital. Doctor visits often daily, even when out of the hospital. They endure awful side effects of chemotherapy, painful bone marrow biopsies, and other invasive procedures. I don't know what subtype of leukemia McKenna had, but relapse can be a possibility. We do not use the term "cure" so early. She is in remission. The treatments leave her at an increased rate for other cancers as she grows older. Make a wish is not only for terminal children!! I hope you have a wonderful time at Disney McKenna!
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# 2012-07-19 15:22
My son was diagnosed with A.L.L. when we was 15 yrs old. Today he is 26, a graduate of Ramapo College and a working accountant. 3 years of intense chemo, steroids that ate away at his hips, had bi-lateral hip replacement surgery at 20 years old. I watched in horror at what he went through and never complained. He was offered a wish but decided against it, he said "give it to someone who really deserves it". God love me son. This young girls father should sign and let her go. May God bless her with continued good health. Hey Disney send the tickets for the parks and plane.....
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# 2012-07-19 15:38
I dunno, I tend to agree with the fathers point of view, I certainly respect a persons decision to not accept public money, and everything I have ever seen about make-a-wish is that they grant wishes to terminally ill children which doesn't sound the case here. One would think that the lesson for any cancer survivor would be to happily donate their trip to all the children who won't survive their cancer and live the many years this girl will. Its disturbing to me that so many people here on this site are so willing to take a public handout under questionable circumstances.
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# 2012-07-19 15:46
I'm shocked the Courts would even get involved. There are more important things the Courts should be involved in.
I agree with dad, it is for those who are dying, not who survived. This isn't any different than people on Medicaid when they really don't qualify. Fraud is fraud. Make a wish is for those dying. Medicaid is for those who really need it as a hand up not a hand out.Everyone should respect dad's decision, it's actually the right one. The girl shouldn't have been told about going anywhere until the parents signed off. That is just common sense. As far as dad not being in the child's life, you'd be surprised how often it is the low life moms keeping the dads away for no reason. Then they make up stories to make dad look bad. It happens all the time! Way to go dad. We need more honest people like yourself.
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# 2012-07-21 11:31
You are so ignorant to the facts, it's hard to read your full post. My goodness, do some research.
Make a wish is not exclusive to children who are dying, make a wish includes children like this little girl who's undergone endless painful treatments in hopes it will make her well. This little girl is not "free and clear" as her absent father, states, she is in remission & the chance of her becoming ill again could be high.

I can honestly say, I've never read such a cold hearted comment as yours. I can only assume, you hate most everything, with children being the upmost on your list.
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# 2012-07-19 15:56
until you are a father going through divorce OR a child like I was whos parents went thru divorce than you don't understand what is going thru the fathers mind. A very high percetage of fathers are always given visitation rights while the moms get the home, car, children etc. Thats a given that the courts almost always rule in favor of the mom.

If this mom is anything like mine than she will play little games using the child as a tool to get back at the father, especialy if he has moved on and remarried while she is single with a child. My mom moved far away, would take off with us kids on weekends that my dad would drive 340 miles just to visit us for the weekend. So I don't blame the father one bit for this.
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# 2012-07-19 16:05
Hey, let him keep her from going. When it comes time for her to walk down the aisle, she could tell him to take a long walk off of a short pier. Life's a you-know-what!!
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# 2012-07-19 16:34
Quoting Keith:
This guy is a selfish punk

You stated this so much more nicely than he deserves. I worked with the MAW Foundation and NEVER saw a child who did not want some happy days in their life.
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# 2012-07-19 16:41
The doctors determine who’s qualified for a Wish so what right does the father have to tell the Foundation who they should grant wishes to? She’s not “cured”. She has years ahead of her before that can be said. Also when one has 6 months or less to live, a trip anywhere may not be possible; the pain by then is severe. The mother didn’t even try to let a judge get an order for parental signature. She just gave up and now wants people to donate. Why should they if she’s not even willing to try? Both parents are equally responsible. There’s a lot more at play in this family than this issue.
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# 2012-07-19 16:41
Just goes to prove that there is more to being a father than biology.
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# 2012-07-20 08:26
William,

Don't deny that baby that trip. Hopefully, she is cured and lives a long life. She would never forgive you for this if you ever want to be in her life. I have a daughter who has a kidney disease and has been selected to go on a cruise(her dream) by a similar foundation, but has not been up to it for 5 years. She has been through so much pain(adults couldn't handle it) in the past nine years, I couldn't imagine letting that baby not live HER dreams. She is my hero. Don't be the bad guy, she will never forget if you really do want to be in her life, or is it really between you and her mom.
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# 2012-07-19 16:43
No, it is not cured, it is in remission. My stepmother had cancer and she passed the 5 year mark with no problems but at 9 years it was discovered that the cancer had spread throughout her body and she passed at the age of 59. So she should be allowed to go on the trip. God bless them.
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# 2012-07-20 04:17
The father qualifies for the "Rielle Hunter: Worst Person in the World Award." What a stupid brick head!!!
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# 2012-07-20 06:26
The father`s reasoning leads me to believe his IQ is quite low
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# 2012-07-20 06:38
This dad is a pure jerk to deny his child a chance in a lifetime trip to the Magic Kingdom.. she's been thru pure heck.. let that child enjoy herself.. who's to say the cancer won't come back, God forbid, before she gets a chance to go! What a jerk!!

If I wasn't a single mom.. I would defianlty donate money. My daughter is 4 and when I see her eyes lite up everytime she sees a Princess or sees Mickey.. it makes my eyes fill with tears.. cause she is SO happy to be visiting the Happiest place on earth!
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# 2012-07-20 07:46
Make a Wish's two parent approval policy is anachronistic and hurts more than it helps. They are the ones at fault here.
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# 2012-07-20 08:46
No, Make-A-Wish isn't at fault. She was determined to be eligible for the wish but the MOTHER PULLED THE REQUEST!

Why? Could it be that she will raise much more money by putting her spin on this.

Interesting that there has been no further comment from Make-A-Wish. Perhaps if mom wouldn't have pulled the request things would be different.
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# 2012-07-20 09:18
The father doesn't seem to have his daughter's best interest at heart, plain and simple. So, all I would like to know is where can I send a donation? I will send one for her to go to Disney and one for her mom to get a house!
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# 2012-07-20 09:49
it seems that this dad was just granted rights to his daughter. It seems that maybe MAYBE this father was denied visits by the mother. This does not excuse him however, if she is looking to move on him i agree w/him to stop the trip. As a parent it is his right to get visits with his child which the mom is so trying to stop. it seems she is making a stink just to make him look bad. btw, i am a mom, who has seen this happen with other moms' keeping their child away from dad just for spite and pain.
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# 2012-07-20 10:01
How heartbreaking!! ! I cannot fathom what is running through this man's head. Just watch ANY little girl - Disney is a dream come true! Princesses, Fairy Godmothers, Tinkerbell... an escape to a wonderful world where dreams come true. In a child's mind, that IS WONDERFUL! To a child that has suffered so much pain... this is a MUCH deserved escape to a place without pain, without needles, without sadness,without doctors with grim faces. How can a father deny his sweet child such a gift?
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# 2012-07-20 10:07
The wonderful open hearts of community always touches me. But I have to say there is more to this story, I believe. While many of you have bashed this father I support him. It is shocking that some mothers wrote they did not think he should have imput. Really? Why? Both biological parents are important. Maybe Mom should take this money and set up a memorial fund for the families in Colorado to help them with funeral expenses, verses holding her hand out. Now that would be a worthy story to write about.
Hang in there Dad, something tells me you have a bigger story to tell but you would never put it out there for your daughter to know. Especially since she is so very sick. I pray for your daughter that she beats this. It took the life of my sister so I understand.
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# 2012-07-20 10:11
I can see both sides to this situation as I have been the parent of a critically ill child that would have qualified for a Make A Wish trip. My son endured years of chemo, radiation and surgeries for his cancer and was at one point considered terminal. We rejected applying for the free trip for two reasons...we were able to pay for the trip on our own and once my son was cancer free, felt children with no chance at recovery would be better deserving. There are so many varying factors in situations like this, it is truly impossible to judge unless you have been in these parents position. I truly hope this child lives a long life and has the opportunity to enjoy Disney World many times.
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# 2012-07-20 10:12
Gosh, I really hope that someone is checking the IP addresses of comments on this post. I have a strong suspicion that many of these "supportive" comments are by Daddy Dearest himself. Or maybe I just don't want to believe that anyone could agree with this guy's spiteful, selfish actions.
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# 2012-07-20 10:36
My daughter and I just got back from her MAW trip to Florida. Getting to stay at Give Kids The World ( part of the MAW) and the treatment you get from Disney as a MAW was some of the best memories w/ my daughter I could have. It was amazing. I get teary thinking of it. To have this girl miss out because her "Dad" deems her unworthy. What a D-BAG!! She has 5 years of relapse to worry about and second cancers from all the chemo. The danger of dying is not gone. That is why they qualify. Also, to bring happiness to a child that has heard No, I"m sorry you can't go to school or outside or to your friends party, your ANC is too low, or all the throwing up and being sick for 2.5 years. To be denied that by her own father. You don't get enemies as bad as that. Horrible. Poor little thing.
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# 2012-07-20 10:50
Thanks to this story, the little girl will net thousands of dollars, the family will get the trip and have plenty left over to buy a house in FL. Good way to stop the trip.
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# 2012-07-20 11:38
My heart is broken my son also has leukemia and he just got to make his wish about a month ago we are going to Australia next summer. I don't have a custody issue I am married to my sons father. I just can understand the logic behind the fathers thinking. My son has also been through the same treatment plan and still has two years togo. Any child that has cancer and has been throught alot and deserves a wish. It's not just a trip it's a time when a child doesnt think about being sick or doctors and needles ect.and it's time for them to just be a normal kid and every kid deserved that. Please dont judge this mother until you walked in her shoes and has gone through what she has with her child. We as parents of children with cancer all walk the same walk just with different shoes. I really hope the father comes around and changes his mind.
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# 2012-07-20 12:13
I went to donate money to your gofundme site and holy moly, Whitney! You've raised over $11,000! I hope you take her on a Disney vacation immediately followed by a cruise. You have no idea how happy I am that you'll be able to take her on this trip. I had malignant melanoma when I was a child, and I now have a four-year-old, and the just the mere THOUGHT of my baby going through what I went through makes me incredibly sad and angry. And then to add the father wouldn't release her to go? It's a horrible situation. I hope you two have the most amazing times of your lives
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# 2012-07-20 15:04
cont.... Wanna know something else? These kids may be cancer free, but there is a chance of relapse..and that's deadly. There is the chance of latent effects like loss of mental capacity and motor function that can happen years later after that sigh of relief is breathed at the end of the treatment. Mckenna deserves this trip like any other child, maybe even more so than some kids who get everything in their lives. My husband and I are fixing to move next week but I'm going to tell him we're donating to this little girl's cause. And I'm going to get our local group, Roc Solid Organization involved as well. They build playsets for kids like my daughter and Mckenna. This breaks my heat and hits home very hard...
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# 2012-07-20 15:31
@ eman - I am going to have to guess you have never been involved in a custody dispute. The mother cannot see to it that he is out of the picture. This is up to a court. Obviously, she tried and was able to do so for 4 years, but the court gave him visitation in January. What would you suggest she do - flee the country with her sick child?
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# 2012-07-20 16:14
Let me guess. The father will sue for half of the funds that his child got.
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# 2012-07-20 18:03
This should have NEVER been brought out for public speculation. I didn't have the time to read every comment, but this is mine: I don't know ALL the facts about this situation, therefore, I will NOT judge this man for his decision. Shame on those of you who have. This is a private matter between the parents of this poor child. It is NONE of your business. It's not the business of the Sentinel Tribune, 92.5 radio station, or MSN.com. Disgracefull!!! !!
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# 2012-07-20 19:58
As a donator to the hope foundation. I think the little girl deserves the vacation. Also Im very happy for her that shes in remission I hope it stays that way. Just think how the little girl would feel if she was given the trip and then told she couldnt go because shes better. Maybe she could use the trip as a celebration that she in remission.
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# 2012-07-21 04:58
For the love of God who cares how much more there is to the whole story. This little girl deserves to go to Disney World. Whether Mom is looking for a house or the court aproves what for whoever, she has suffered enough let her have a couple days of joy and happines. This guy is selfish and ignorant to punish this little girl. Regardless of the truth between the parents the little girl fought this disease and is winning hopefully for good by the grace of God.. Let her go you monster. I don't need to know the whole family history it's about a little girl and a Disney trip all you "what if" or "I don't know the whole story" nasayers are as creepy as her father? It's about the little girl and she has suffered enough don't do this to her how selfish, evil and wicked..
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# 2012-07-22 07:03
They don't just pay for cured children to go on wishes! It depends on what kind of wish, where they are in treatment, of they can take the time off from a hospital. My son got his wish mid treatment because it didn't interfere with his blood tests and chemo. He wasn't cured, he was oy halfway through. I'm sure their only reason for waiting was a very good one. What if something happened? I think it is selfish.
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